The Good Wedding Guest - A Marrygrams Guide
As summer wedding season winds down, fall nuptials are just beginning. And as this time of year is becoming an increasingly popular time to tie the knot, it's always a good idea to brush up your etiquette before the festivities begin. Follow our guide below for the etiquette rules you should always adhere to, whatever the season. And happy fall!
Don't be Late
This should go without saying, but it is especially important to factor in a generous time buffer when attending an autumn wedding. The light fades particularly fast this time of year and you do NOT want to be the reason the photographer wasn't able to capture that gorgeous November sunset. So be on time, and better yet, be early. The good wedding guest always is.
There is nothing that derails a wedding faster than an unexpected wedding guest. So make sure you're not the person responsible for bringing them. If your invitation didn't expressly give you a plus one, don't bring one. And if your baby sitter bailed last minute it's better for everyone to miss the wedding than to bring a pack of toddlers to an adults only affair. Stick to the invitation and you'll hit the mark every time.
Mind the Bride
If you do show up early, try not to pester the bride. It's great that you're available to help out if needed, but direct those inquiries to the wedding planner, mother of the bride, or the wedding party before seeking out the lady of the hour.
This goes beyond just following the dress code (which you should always do). Make sure you check the weather and bring layers accordingly. Fall weddings get chilly, so pack an extra jacket/scarf/gloves so you're prepared for anything. Tossing in that extra cardigan can make all the difference in a breezy reception hall.
Ask Before Posting
Inevitably, the first images of a wedding people see these days are blurry cell phone shots posted by an over eager guest. Don't be that guest. The couple is paying a lot of money to have their day documented in the way they want it to be. And there is nothing more disappointing than having your wedding photo bubble broken early on Facebook. So make sure you know what the newlyweds prefer ahead of time. Some people will have a wedding hashtag they'd love for you to use, and others would prefer you left your phone at home. Learn the rules so you can avoid breaking them.
This is a good reminder for all of us, everyday. But especially as a wedding guest, get off of your phone! Be in the moment - taste the food, start new conversations with new friends and participate in the wedding day. You'll have more fun and there will be plenty of social media evidence from someone else to prove it.
Don't Eat and Run
Sometimes things happen and you have to leave early, and that's fine! But if at all possible try to stay for the entire duration of the evening. You were invited to celebrate and participate, not just for dinner, so take off your jacket and stay awhile! The happy couple will be thrilled you did.
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